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Post by Gay J Oliver on Aug 18, 2009 22:52:35 GMT
Hi Florence and Woody,
I just spent about an hour sending a message, then my computer crashed. I have to go to bed now and am out most of tomorrow, but will send my best wishes and contributions very soon. GAY
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Post by Gay J Oliver on Aug 19, 2009 23:11:07 GMT
Hello Florence,
I did write you a message last night, but computer crashed. I wanted to concur with all of Woody's findings and agree that before anyone can really solve your Lily Atherton's history and where she fits in you do need to purchase her birth certificate.
When you have had a lot of experience, you can often work round one missing piece of information, but when things get as complicated as Lily's, it is back to basics and you must work back step by step. We do try to find ways to avoid spending too much money, but like any hobby it does become inevitable at times.
I really did though want to empathise with you about the very sad time you are going through with your mother. With the help of my daughter, I nursed my husband through his final illness, and looking back, what got us through was trying to do our best to carry out his wishes. He had even with his usual sense of humour planned out his funeral and making these arrangements helped us so much afterwards because we knew we had a plan to make sure everything was as he had wished. Later I realised that he'd done these things to on purpose to be kind to us.
Please be kind to yourself, at least you have the reassurance that you are doing all you can for you mum.
big hug! GAY
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Post by florence on Aug 22, 2009 18:57:07 GMT
Thank you Woody and Gay for the detailed reply's, yes I do have to agree that a birth certificate is needed for Lily to continue down this route. I do need to divert my attentions now to keep me busy.
Mum died on 20th August in Tameside I have the death certificate but they gave me Monday 4pm to be able to register the death, so mum is still stuck in hospital until I can get the green slip to let the undertaker collect her body.
Mum just gave up on life decided if she was going to die then it would be her choice when, this was the hard part to accept after the long fight to keep her alive after the hospital blunder.
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Post by Gay J Oliver on Aug 24, 2009 21:44:51 GMT
Hello Florence,
Sorry not to have sent a message any sooner. I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I do hope that you will soon begin to have happier memories of her and not of her last illness.
I had lunch today with several of the girls who belong to this forum and they also send their good wishes.
As soon as you are ready, come and post messages again and we will continue to try and help sort out your Atherton conundrum. I notice you have written today to a new member of the forum who also has STANFIELD ancestors. Good Luck with that.
GAY
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Post by florence on Aug 31, 2009 22:16:39 GMT
I have been doingf little bits on the family tree on ancestry site found a recent picture of mam which either has me crying or smiling as she is there smiling back at me.
I have finished the hymm sheet for church the final touch is the words I added to the back over a faded picture of menia straits at sunset a place we loved to sit and watch the sun go down.
"I know you were not ready to go, but God saw you were weary with no cure insight. He opened his arms then whispered come to me.. You are now in his home free from pain, our pain will ease with time. Our special shared places will help me, memories that never fade. Our love for the best Mam and Grandma in the world will never go. Tears have flooded rivers over the past months seeing you in so much pain. I cannot promise to never shed another tear over the years but each drop will be with love. As the sunsets the warm glow reminds me more of the warmth, your love wrapped us all in.
I was there to say goodbye even though it broke my heart. I couldn’t just leave you until I knew you had departed. Your love brought me into this world also kept me warm and safe. My love was there to reassure you, your life was one of Gods blessings. As the days pass by I look at this your last ever picture. You are there smiling back at me which brings a tear or smile. You have your last wishes you guided me. I know you are with me in many ways. Good night my thoughts are with you. Memories and Love that never dies."
When I had finshed I had cried a lot and felt better for it.
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Post by florence on Sept 1, 2009 13:20:38 GMT
Lily Atherton birth certificate arrived today her father was George Frederick Atherton mother Gertrude Emma Atherton ( Green maiden name). Iron fitter for fathers occupation. Lily was born at home 102 Asprey Street Clayton.
Strange for her mother it says late Greenhalgh formerly Green so may have been married before George.
So you were on one right track even with my slightly wrong info Thank you all.
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Post by Woody on Sept 3, 2009 19:08:42 GMT
Hi Florence
Thanks for the info. Nice to know we can still occasionally guess it right, but knowing for a fact is much more reliable !
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Post by florence on Jan 31, 2011 23:24:06 GMT
Hi Woody I will be starting this project up again I am planning on ordering certificates where needed many thanks for all the work you put in just aroound the time things went pearshaped for me.
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